He Junxian: Research on Nie Shengzhe's Philosophy of Action - Life cannot be twisted, otherwise it will be too bitter

At the beginning of the new year in 2016, I accompanied Mr. Shengzhe to receive Mr. Feng Dan, a former deputy director of the Daqiuzhuang Office and a high talent from Peking University. Mr. Shengzhe said a sentence during the banquet: Don't twist life, otherwise it will be too bitter. Savoring this sentence carefully has many artistic conception.

——The manager should not twist it, otherwise the employees will suffer too much—— Employees should not twist around, otherwise they will suffer too much—— Parents should not twist it, otherwise the child will suffer too much.

There is an iron rule in management: the best management is just the right management. What is proper management? There are no standards or definitions. Why is there no standard or definition?

Because, in a sense, management is the management of human nature. Managers need to learn to have an insight into human nature. The manager cannot twist it, otherwise the employees will suffer too much. One thing to pay special attention to is that employees cannot be on duty 24 hours a day and cannot work overtime too frequently. Otherwise, employees will not be happy. Lao Nie said that Mr. Jin Jianfeng from Desheng Yanglou has been employed for 14 years and only works 5-10 times during his break time.

Do you see the gap? This is the way of enterprise management. (Make a small advertisement and welcome to the CEO class at Dawn Hall to learn. After the class, you will have an epiphany on humanized management.)

Employees should not twist it, as if you twist it, it will become antagonistic to the company.

Last year, I paid a follow-up visit to a student company in the CEO class of a certain morning enlightenment hall. At noon, this student invited me to dinner with a group of middle managers. During the banquet, I talked about some feelings and how employees face the boss's problems. This problem is very practical. I say many young people nowadays always see their boss as a tiger and privately complain about how bad the boss is. In fact, this question was thoroughly explained by my mother, a woman with only a junior high school education.

She said, "If you always see your boss as a tiger trying to eat you, always thinking about this mountain looking up at that mountain, but which mountain's tiger doesn't eat people

So, don't twist it around, you need to turn your mind. When your thoughts turn around, you'll be smooth.

After lunch, a middle manager took the initiative to drop us off and drove us all the way to the roadside. On the way, he whispered to me, "Teacher He, your words just now helped me solve my inner problem." It's amazing, just like my mother's words, which helped someone realize their resignation.

Family education should not be twisted, otherwise the child will suffer too much.

Children must eventually grow into independent individuals. The direction of growth is not only the power of genes, but also the call from the child's own heart. Unfortunately, many parents like to twist their imagination against their children's wishes and confront the power of growth.

Clearly your child is a tiger, you must force them to learn how to climb trees. A child who has passed the tenth grade piano test, when leaving their family and starting to become independent, their first wish is to never play the piano again in this lifetime.

I often say, don't force children to attend various tutoring classes. In fact, most tutoring classes have a certain effect on short-term exam taking, but have basically negative effects on long-term learning and growth. I won't go into the various negative effects of attending tutoring classes, at least one thing. When you send your child to tutoring classes, you will work very hard and you will definitely have expectations. Once you have expectations, you are less likely to have surprises, and more often than not, there are only surprises without joy. Why? Your child sacrificed his rest and entertainment time to attend tutoring classes, but his grades did not improve and his physical and mental health did not improve. It's better to learn during class and play during play. Isn't this just a surprise without joy?

If children love cooking, parents must encourage them to become cooks or Gourmet in the future; If children easily play with mathematics, physics, and chemistry, then they should do serious research and may become scientists; If a child loves to operate and dismantle their computer and watch at home, then learn engineering, skills, and crafts; If children love sports and run and jump every day, even if they can't win medals, they still have a healthy physique... Society needs all kinds of talents, just fools who only know exams. Parents should not twist around with social needs, let alone their children.

Life cannot be twisted, otherwise it will be too bitter. Understanding this will mature you.